Amy and Ted loved the idea of a winter wedding. They liked the feeling and aesthetic of its cool starkness in contrast with the desire to feel warmth and fire. The challenge was how to use the idea of winter without conjuring Christmas. With the help of the Haven’s Kitchen events team and the artistic direction of Patrick Clayton, they relied on the minimalist loft-like third floor space to evoke the vast whiteness of winter with a fireside intimacy.
What was the most important part of the wedding planning process for you?
Amy: Haven’s Kitchen was actually the only place we looked at. A lot of the “big” decisions and moments in our relationship have come naturally to us like settling on Haven’s Kitchen as our venue. They believed as we did in “forming communities through the pleasure of cooking and eating.” With our wedding, we would be forming a new community. We’re not really “wedding” people so it was vital that our venue give us a feel of comfort and home.
There are a lot of competing forces out there when it comes to getting married and having a wedding. Our plans for what we wanted for our wedding day has shifted a couple of times over the two years we were planning, but, at every point, Halle [Haven's Kitchen Events Director] was there to give guidance and help us keep the day entirely ours.
Amy’s bouquet was done by event designer Patrick Clayton.
What were some of the details you were excited to see come to life as part of your wedding?
Amy: You know, every bit of it was exciting to see come to life. We loved working with Patrick (Clayton) on the decor for the third floor. Prior to guests arriving we took a quick look to see what he had created and we were blown away by how beautiful his work was. Minimal yet elegant. Exactly what we wanted.
There was a point during the evening when I was standing near the bar and I looked out into the room and was filled with a sense of peace and contentment. Everything we had worked for and wanted was right there in front of us.
It’s winter, not Christmas! Clayton used candles and winter greens to spruce up the third floor loft space to create a contrast of winter minimal and fireside cozy.
What have you learned about yourselves and each other in the last year as you’ve put together your wedding?
Ted: I came to realize Amy’s capacity for compromise. Having a wedding was something that I was invested in and Amy is more the elopement kind. Through this experience I came to see how much we give and care for one another. We find our own happiness in the happiness of the other. We managed to find ways to make the wedding important for both of us and be honest to who we were as individuals and a couple.
Amy: I always knew that Ted was supportive and that he really considers my thoughts and feelings, but through planning the wedding I felt all of that more deeply. As he noted, I’m not really a wedding girl and could have done without it. But through his patience and working together while planning, I realized that I did want it. He opened my eyes in a way I wasn’t expecting. As long as we were true to ourselves, it would indeed be a celebration of our love and commitment to each other and nothing else.
Instead of a traditional seated meal, Amy and Ted opted to do a cocktail-style reception. Amy’s friend, Rachel Conemeyer did the desserts including these coffee pate choux.
Anything you would change about your experience?
Amy: It was perfect. Truly perfect. At any point where we needed help, Halle was there. If it wasn’t for her we wouldn’t have found our photographer or event designer. And the two of them fit us and our dreams seamlessly. The ease at which we fell into our relationships with them and HK is something we’ll never forget. Obviously not every part of wedding planning is peachy, but without a doubt we wouldn’t change any bit of how it went for us. In fact, we’d do it again every weekend if we could.
Venue / Food / Event Management: Haven’s Kitchen
Photographer: Sarah Bode-Clark Photography
Décor / Flowers: Patrick J. Clayton Productions
Dress: Sarah Seven
Her Shoes: Sam Edelman
Hair & Make-Up: Glam Squad
Groom: The Black Tux
His Shoes: Hugo Boss
Wedding Cake: Cakes & Confections by Rachel Cronemeyer Flatley
For more photos from Amy and Ted’s wedding visit our new Instagram @weddingsathavenskitchen.